Updated: Apr 21
At the time of this writing, the world is facing a global public health pandemic, COVID-19 or coronavirus. The way we live, work, and interact with each other on a human level has changed.
I don’t think any of us imagined that 2020 would end up this way. I certainly did not imagine that I would be spending my birthday canceling a trip of a lifetime to the United Kingdom due to the travel restrictions put in place.
Over the next several weeks, I am making a shift in my blog articles on RESPONDing to the challenges of today:
RE: Release, Reboot, Rebound
S: Safe spaces
N: Negotiations: Your time & your money
D: Determination & Grit: Stay Winning
Release, Reboot, Rebound
I had a wake-up call the other day to just stop.
Stop being so virtually awesome with my videos.
Stop advertising my group coaching program.
Stop. And. Breath.
The truth was, I was trying so hard not to think about my fears of COVID-19—health, economy, food supply, etc.— I thought it best to immerse myself in every webinar, video conference, and phone conversation.
I felt like I couldn’t breathe.
I was doing so much to be helpful to others and not helping myself.
I realized I needed to put my mask on before helping others.
Are you in the same boat?
Admitting I am doing too much is the first step to getting myself together.
What I’ve done to “release” is to share my frustrations and my fears with people I trust. As an alternative, you don’t have to tell the world; the same release can be done through journaling.
Admitting that you are scared, you have concerns, and that you are overwhelmed is not a sign of weakness. It takes strength and courage to realize when you’ve reached a breaking point.
In combination with journaling and sharing with close connections, I’ve released (and revealed) that I am:
Overcommitting my time
Anxious about my financial future as a business owner
Struggling with making time for the people who matter the most—my family
What do you need to release?
By acknowledging and releasing those concerns gives me focus to reboot. Knowing my pressure points allows me to refocus and address those areas.
I have a plan in place to get better sleep; May by the way is Better Sleep Month.
Learning to say no. I can never get my time back.
I’m taking advantage of business relief programs and reminding myself not to get frustrated with the process—I can only do what’s within my control.
By saying no to others I am saying yes to my daughter who wants a spa day, I’m saying yes to my spouse when we have our own date night on the deck, and I’m saying yes to my senior Labrador Retriever when I roll on the floor with him who is loving that his humans are home all the time.
This is not to say “pick yourself back up!”
During this time of COVID-19, the uncertainty of this invisible enemy is weighing over everyone and the clinical experts indicate we are dealing with grief.
It takes time to recover from grief.
What I’ve observed with myself is that releasing out loud what I’m feeling gives me focus on how to deal with it. For some items, I will rely on experts, close friends, and my family to get through.
I am in no position to take on ten projects in the hopes that it will take my mind off my troubles. While that may work for some, I need to focus on the basics of health, eating, sleeping, and being ok in my own skin.
I’m still out there doing work, getting work, and giving my clients my best.
But I also realize I need to put my mask on first before I can help others.
I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it. - Maya Angelou
I hope this blog article and my upcoming blogs provide some level of solace and serve as a sanity check for the reader. Spending the time writing on this topic is definitely cathartic for me.
Peace and blessings…let’s flatten the curve.